..reflections~

 "Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves."

 I was looking at my kids happily playing yesterday and tears just flowed from my eyes. My kids are blessed because they have experienced being “kids”.

I recall a woman who had suffered severe rejection and physical abuse as a child. She was bitten by her mother without cause, shouted at, telling her that she was not of no value, that she would never amount to anything. She was not allowed to play with someone..often times she would play by herself.

She experienced being locked in a small dark room without food for one day. Going to school with lashes on her arms. Day after day, those destructive words went into her deepest thoughts, destroying her self-image and her sense of value. But above all having those scars and bruises permanently marked on her heart.

 I told her, you couldn’t allow your sense of value to be determined by how people treated you. Many people have rejected you..Yes it is too painful but you can’t just be crying for the rest of your life and harboring on your bitterness forever. You have to move on for yourself and for your kids because God has always accepted you of who you are. In His eyes you are of worth.

I looked again..And I saw myself crying..I was speaking to myself for it was my reflection in front of a mirror..For that young girl was me..

There are times in our lives when we may have gone through traumatic experiences, somebody had mistreated us, used, rejected or betrayed us and we have heard a lot of condemning words from other people.

We may not understand everything we are going through right now. But let us learn not to let our past determine of what our future will be. "Let us learn to look up and not to allow the rejection of other people to cause you to reject yourself."

Now that I am a single Mom. I have learned to treat it as a blessing. It helped me to grow and mature as an individual. I have learned not to do the same things that I had experienced when I was young. I learned to love my kids more.With God's guidance.. Loving my "kids"  and feeling their love in return gave back my Value and my Worth of Being a Woman :)

When the waves are taking you under
Hold on just a little bit longer
He knows that this is gonna make you stronger, stronger
The pain ain't gonna last forever
In time it's gonna get better
Believe me
This is gonna make you stronger