Forgiveness is always a hard issue on every individual. They always say it is easy for you to say but it is always hard to do. I have been through a lot of hurts in the past. Many have come to my life but few are those persons who can I call to be true. Many come but only few are chosen. Even how deep the hurt was I always learn to forgive. One of my principles in life is to forgive as a favor for myself and not those who have done me wrong. I always believe on a principle “Most mindsets say we become the victim if we forgive, and the offender becomes the victor.Actually, it works the other way around: When you choose to forgive, you become the victor.”-Chinkee Tan
Before I have been into sleepless nights. Always crying on the corner if someone has betrayed or cast lies and hurts on me. I have had inferiority complex and always looked down on myself. Deep emotional hurt and mental scars was there always waiting to choke me up. Later in life when I discovered that I had a heart ailment things began to change. I asked myself why I would let this anger and bitterness ruin my days here on earth. I decided not to let this past hurts affect my present and future life. I have made a choice to let go of my past hurts, forgive those persons who have hurt me and enjoy the life that God had given me.
I am reading a book and the author Chinkee Tan said, “Forgiveness starts with the word decision”. “The Decision must be based on a choice and a commitment. We should not depend on our feelings and emotions; if we will trust solely on our emotions it will just defeat us.”
Forgiveness is a decision we have to make. It is a process and it does not take overnight to undo everything. Decision to let go of the past is the first step. Accepting that it has already been done and finished is the second step. Let go of the past because you cannot change it anymore. It will remain as a memory that needs not to be affecting your future. Forget and leave the bad memories behind but treasure the good memories and keep it us a learning tool for your future. Do not let your past affect your future life for sure you will be the loser in the end!
Break your bondage from your past memories. Try focusing on your present life!Make yourself and your loved ones a priority rather than harboring your anger and having those people around you be affected and losing them in the end.Always asked for God’s guidance and emotional healing.
Past mistakes and hurts have been done. It is not an easy process but taking the first step can lead to a race to the finish line which is forgiveness and restoration. One saying goes “You cannot sail the ship when the rope is still tied to the dock.” It is time to let go and be free from your past hurts. Move on it is time to let go!